Over the years, I’ve worked with clients who have been abused by their parents, either physically, emotionally or sexually. This ill-treatment has affected both their physical and emotional health, as well as relationships with people round them. They might have grown up since the abuse happened, however, mentally and emotionally they are still very damaged.
Imagine having a conversation with your friends about someone who is being abused, either physically or emotionally, by their partner. Would they say something along the lines of ‘Why don’t they just leave?’ or ‘I would never let someone hit me, I’d leave!’ More importantly, how many of those friends sitting round the table with you were the victims of domestic abuse, but would have never admitted that?
I have always been very interested in the endlessly fascinating area of human behaviour. I am curious about what motivates people and why they behave the way they do. However, certain behaviours are difficult to understand and only people who lived and experienced some very challenging behaviours will ever completely understand the internal logic of people demonstrating those behaviours.