In my last week’s blog I talked about how attachment established during the first 5 years determines not only how we feel about ourselves and others, but also how we will relate to other people throughout our life. Furthermore, it’s important to point out that our attachment style also influences the quality of relationship we will have as a parent with our own children. So let’s have a look at different types of attachment to understand this a little bit better.
I have recently seen a mother dragging her young son through the shopping mall. She was screaming at him and was calling him names, while people around her watched in disbelief, not knowing what to do. What could have we done? Well, at least one of us could have told her to stop. Would it help? Would she have stopped and realize that what she was doing was wrong? Or would she have taken her anger out on us? Or drag the little guy home and carry on with the abuse there?