Chronic blaming is a form of emotional abuse. Being in a relationship with someone who constantly blames us for their behaviour, their actions, their moods and their failure means being in a relationship that is full of verbal abuse and emotional manipulation. Moreover, this relationship is defined by conflict, constant fighting and lack of forgiveness.
One of the main reasons why people struggle to resolve conflicts in their relationships is because they are stuck in what Stephen Karpman calls a Drama Triangle. This triangle is used to display what might be happening between two people when they are in an unhealthy and manipulative relationships.
Movies create unrealistic expectations about what our relationships should be like, yet we all know that our everyday reality is far from the romantic idyllic relationships presented in movies. Well, maybe at the beginning our relationships might have looked like something from a romantic movie, but then one day we woke up in the morning, looked at our partner sleeping next to us and though ‘How did I end up with you?’