As discussed in my last blog, stress is an unavoidable part of modern life and we all have some experience of what it is like to feel stressed. However, when it comes to analysing the common causes of stress it is essential to take into consideration our expectations and how these expectations seem to be in a way affected by the generation we were born into.
I believe that accepting certain things in our life as they are could help us lead more contented lives that we will be more satisfied with. One of those things that we need to tolerate as part of our everyday reality is that stress is unavoidable and that it affects pretty much all of us at some point in our lives.
Imagine having a conversation with your friends about someone who is being abused, either physically or emotionally, by their partner. Would they say something along the lines of ‘Why don’t they just leave?’ or ‘I would never let someone hit me, I’d leave!’ More importantly, how many of those friends sitting round the table with you were the victims of domestic abuse, but would have never admitted that?
Over the last few years we have experienced a boom in social networking websites, with the most popular being Facebook and Twitter. These websites provide people with a sense of belonging, they allow them to stay connected with their friends and family and many people use social media to make professional connections. However, despite all the obvious advantages, social media technology has many negative effects.
Our society has come to the point where far too many people are not taking responsibility for their lives. How many people do you know who are quick to blame other people or institutions when something in their lives goes wrong? I personally know quite a few people who spend a good portion of their time blaming others and despite the role they have played in their situation they reject any responsibility.
One of the main reasons why people struggle to resolve conflicts in their relationships is because they are stuck in what Stephen Karpman calls a Drama Triangle. This triangle is used to display what might be happening between two people when they are in an unhealthy and manipulative relationships.
I have always been very interested in the endlessly fascinating area of human behaviour. I am curious about what motivates people and why they behave the way they do. However, certain behaviours are difficult to understand and only people who lived and experienced some very challenging behaviours will ever completely understand the internal logic of people demonstrating those behaviours.
In my last week’s blog I talked about how attachment established during the first 5 years determines not only how we feel about ourselves and others, but also how we will relate to other people throughout our life. Furthermore, it’s important to point out that our attachment style also influences the quality of relationship we will have as a parent with our own children. So let’s have a look at different types of attachment to understand this a little bit better.
I have recently seen a mother dragging her young son through the shopping mall. She was screaming at him and was calling him names, while people around her watched in disbelief, not knowing what to do. What could have we done? Well, at least one of us could have told her to stop. Would it help? Would she have stopped and realize that what she was doing was wrong? Or would she have taken her anger out on us? Or drag the little guy home and carry on with the abuse there?
Are you struggling with overwhelming feelings and dark thoughts? Do you feel that life is ‘passing you by’? Do you feel hopeless and helpless? Do you suffer from unexplained aches and pains? Do you feel exhausted a lot of the time, but you have difficulty sleeping? Do you lack confidence? Do you feel like a failure? Have you lost interest in the things you used to enjoy? Do you feel that life isn’t worth living?